Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Just so you will understand.

My friends, I have been so touched by the emails, phone calls and attempted skpyes (my skpye is broken).  To know that I have so many dear friends that I have never met just takes my breath away.

As YamYam said, I am scheduled to go into surgery on Friday.  We have run into some issues today and it may be postponed.  My blood pressure took a nose dive.  87/47 is not good.  They don't know why.  I love to read Bulletin Boards but I admit some raise my blood pressure and make my head explode.  I know you will find this hard to believe but I am very opinionated.  LOL  With that in mind, ALL BB are off limits even the good ones per my doctor and husband.    But with today's blood pressure maybe I should go read a couple of those mean ones.  Ha!

I now have a LPN with me all the time.  She gives me my meds and pretty much makes certain I am good.  Boy has she got her hands full.  Many have asked if Doug is coming home.  No.  He is not a doctor. There is nothing he can do here.  We can talk on the phone, skype (if I get fixed) etc.  He needs to stay busy and is a phone call away.

I am one of those weird people.  I don't think surgery and illness is a social event.  I had heart surgery last year.  The man in the room next to me had 19 prayer warriors.  WHAT?  My nurse was bringing me my insulin shot and a mother stopped her and asked if she could get a DVD for her kid to calm her down.  And then the ones with the crying babies, the hard of hearing uncles that everyone has to scream to.  Can you imagine the resources wasted daily because our society believes that a hospital  visit is a party?

Organize prayer warriors from your home, offer  to help pick  up the children if any are involved, schedule a cleaning list, a driving list, buy magazines and drop them off at the front desk with a note.  Sit down and hand write a letter to your friend full of funny memories and stories. Trust me that will be read and reread on those nights the nurses wake you up to give you a sleeping pill.  LOL Cook meals and put them in the freezer.  If they live alone, contact the utilities companies.  Check into social services and services available, meals on wheels, etc.  I cannot tell you how many seniors I have brought home from the hospital and thier power, telephone or water be turned off.  If  you explain the situation, the utility company will help you out.

There are so many many things you can do to help those in need that are ill.  I speak for myself only.  I am certain that there are some out there that enjoy the party, that have no concern for their neighbor but I like to think they are few and far between.

And remember that friend a month or so after it is all over.  About six weeks after my daughter died, I remember cleaning out the fridge, all alone ( all that food going to waste!).  I picked up the phone and called her and got her voice mail.  I sat in the middle of the floor and cried for 2 days.  Think out of the box and love your friends in the healtiest best ways for them to heal properly.

PS  I know there are times when people are dying and family members are called, those would be called the exceptions.  Please my friends, don't stop with the emails, comments, notes,calls.  I love it.  But especially those locally understand I am crazy enough, do you really want to see me all drugged up.  LOL
Hugs to you all, and good health to you.


  1. Jeanette,
    You heart and love for other always comes through in so many wonderful ways. Please know that you have a prayer warrior here in Cincinnati, that I can do from home! For now take good care of yourself and be "easy" on your nurse LOL!
    Dee Dee

  2. Prayers are going up here in Az. also. I do agree that too many visitors is really trying for everyone. Great suggestions to remember to be there when they come home, and to be there to help, not just visit. God Bless. Hugs, Marty

  3. I think there is a time and place for visitors, but you're right, most of the time people just sit around and worry and take up space.

    I'm so glad that you still have a sense of humor through all of this. I know there is nothing that your husband can do for you medically, but I wish you weren't without him.

    This Texas gal will be praying for you and wishing you a speedy recovery.


  4. Hi Jeanette,
    I will be thinking of you and praying for you ~ God bless you and give you daily grace each day ♥


  5. I will keep you in my prayers. I agree with you - hospital time is not visiting/party time. Hope you have a fast and full recovery!

  6. You are in my prayers! I want people to visit me when I am well not feeling well.

  7. Jeanette, praying your BP behaves and you can go ahead with your surgery. Me, I think you're a brave woman. Blessings**

  8. Oh Jeanette you must take care my sweet friend.

    Gentle prayers and hugs coming your way!


  9. I will be praying for you tomorrow!! Hope all goes well with your surgery tomorrow! Will be thinking of you...


  10. You will be in my prayers. I hope things go well. Your advice is good. We saw so many things while at the hospital with my mom...some people did treat it as a party. Please keep us posted when you can.

    Hugs and good thoughts,


  11. Hi Jeanette,
    Hope you are able to stabilize soon so your operation can be scheduled at the soonest available time. I wish you calm and peace today!